Everyone knows what rejection feels like. It is the most common emotional wound we experience. Whether you’ve been passed over for a job, turned down by investors or simply left on read, you’ve felt it. You’ve allowed yourself to be temporarily defined by another person’s decision to reject you, even when it’s not personal.
The good news is, you will never stop experiencing rejection.
Wait… did I say good news?
Yes, I did.
Here are 7 reasons to consider rejection as your best friend:
- A “No” can turn into a “Yes”
Ever heard of The 4 Hour Workweek? You know, that New York Times bestseller that created a global movement to work less and earn more? Author Tim Ferris was turned down 26 times before he found a publisher. Stephen King’s first book, Carrie, was also rejected 30 times, causing King to throw the manuscript in the trash. His wife took it out of the bin and encouraged him to submit it “one more time”. We all know how that turned out.
2. Rejection teaches patience
Most of us see rejections as failure. Yet, most of the time, it is just the wrong timing. You or your ideas may still be a diamond in a rough. This aspect of rejection is humbling but necessary. Good things come to those who wait (and grind too, of course).
3. Rejection destroys your competition
How many entrepreneurs, artists or writers give up in the face of rejection? Although the thought of it makes me sad, it presents an advantage for you: the more other people let “No’s” stop them, the more opportunity there is for you to land this job, get into that school or secure this funding for your business idea. Resilience is your competitive advantage!
4. Rejections clear the path towards your success
You’ve got to see every rejection that life throws at you as obstacles you need to get past before you finally succeed. For every ‘No’ you receive, you’re closer to your ‘Yes’. Imagine if Tim Ferris had stopped at rejection #26 or if Stephen King had really given up at rebuff #30?
5. Rejection creates opportunities for change
When facing rejection, ask yourself why you were rejected. It may be a sign that there are lessons to learn. For instance, if you are getting a lot of impersonal rejections, that’s a sign you may be doing something wrong and need to reconsider your approach. Something about your pitch, cover letter or samples may be lacking.
6. Rejection causes us to explore new paths
When a door closes, a window opens. Think about the last time you thought, “I would never have found this job / met this person if the other place hadn’t refused to hire me / person hadn’t broken up with me.” Rejection is a powerful force for analyzing why we go for the goals we do and what it is about these goals that drive us on, or away. It is also a good time for introspection and considering your reasons for going after certain things, people, jobs, or situations.
7. Seeking rejection makes you fearless
The more “No’s” you hear, the more immune you become to rejection. Whatever goal you are trying to achieve, whether it is making a sale or finding an investor, you can train yourself to actually feel happy when getting rejected. In a TED talk, author and entrepreneur Jia Jiang shared lessons of his “100 days of straight rejection”, and how it desensitized him to the pain that “No” can cause. For 100 days straight, Jiang would make absurd requests such as requesting a “burger refill” or asking a stranger to lend him $100. Jiang’s main takeaway was that rejection never defines you, your reaction following the rejection is what defines you.
In a word, rejection is fuel for growth.
& that’s exactly why you should train yourself to embrace it!
How? By shifting your perspective.
Your ability to see things as “changeable” has a strong influence on how you react to rejection. If you can embrace the idea that life is flexible and that losses open doors of opportunities, not only will you recover faster from rejection, but you will grow more within yourself and suffer less when facing rejection.
Moral of the story: SHOOT YOUR SHOT!
Original source: https://medium.com/@zoussi.ley/the-power-of-rejection-421444ecf940
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